MEET MARIAM NOUR
Mariam Nour
B.A. Psychology
Accredited Yoni Mapping Therapist
Trauma-informed sex and relationship therapist and coach
Welcome,
This is a space where you can learn more about me, what I offer and how I can support you.
I work with everyone- singles, couples and groups, of all ages from 18+, from all cultural backgrounds and of all gender orientations.
I offer one on one work somatic bodywork in Sydney and the Kangaroo Valley, NSW, one on one online therapeutic support around the world and combinations of this, alongside regular workshops and retreats.
I work with people in providing them with the necessary skilled support to develop deeper emotional and sexual intimacy in relationship with themselves, others and the world around them.
I am particularly passionate about supporting clients to re-orientate their relationship to trauma and challenges in life to allow their bodies to experience these challenges as the catalysts for growth, awakening, expansion and empowerment, that they can be.
I support clients to resolve trauma and build the necessary skills and resources to repattern for secure, regulated attachment and deeply fulfilling intimacy and relationship.
All of my clients have had extraordinary results- from experiencing a deep sense of spirituality and safety for the first time in their sexuality, to being able to finally feel secure and resourced to create the safe and deeply loving relationships they have always deeply yearned for.
Clients usually come to see me for many reasons including but not limited to:
-To expand their ability to create secure wholesome relationship- often couples or a member of a couple will seek my support to work through relationship challenges when they are at almost breaking point. Others are simply looking at expanding their relationship tool box with greater skills to grow together and create more healing, depth and fulfilment in their relationship.
-A new couple might seek my support in learning the foundational tools for a conscious relationship - to learn about and explore their own and their partners attachment style, attachment language, and how to communicate consciously to cultivate the strongest foundations of skills, safety and trust for their relationship to grow upon.
-Desiring to create a deeper relationship with their body and their sexuality, femininity, masculinity or clarity in their sexual orientation and identification.
-Have experienced some form of trauma, sexual or otherwise, or continued experiences of consenting to sexual activity when the body was a “no”, that they feel is affecting their current experience of their sexuality.
-Would like to expand their skills and embodied experience of their orgasmic potential, beyond the mechanical, goal orientated experience, toward a more wholesome, long lasting and whole body experience of expanded pleasure that nourishes their mind, body, spirit and heart.
-Have been exploring energetic sexual awakening and would like to expand their energetic sexual body and capacity for energetic whole body orgasm.
-Would like to expand their capacity for this with their partner. Including learning how to create safety and opening in theirs and their partner’s body for these deeper states of pleasure using massage, ritual, intention setting and tantric practices.
-Would like to expand this capacity above and would like support learning how to hold space when trauma comes up and they run into disconnection or numbness, pain, stinging, or contraction during foreplay or intercourse.
-Struggling with ongoing or sudden sense of disconnection from their body, their sense of creativity or passion for their partner and/or life in general.
-Ongoing pelvic health complaints such as PCOS, endometriosis, post or pre hysterectomy, post natal, post-abdominal surgery, during pregnancy.
-At the onset of big life transitions such as fatherhood, motherhood, the grief of loss of a relationship, termination or loss of a pregnancy and baby or the beginning of a new season of life such as peri-menopause or menopause or new relationship.
There are many reasons and areas you might be seeking support in and I am very well equipped to support you both through my tools and through my network of colleagues who specialise in many different areas which work with me and my clients as a support team for my clients. I refer to Traditional Medicine Therapists, Osteopaths, Mayo-abdominal massage therapists, Craniosacral Therapists, Clinical Psychologists, Functional Medicine Doctors, Naturopaths, Shamans and other healers, plant assisted therapies and surgeons and specialists that are excellent in caring for women with endometriosis.
If you find yourself at a cross roads and desire support, please do not hesitate to book an initial consultation to chat about your current goals and needs for support. There are extra-ordinary supports that we can link you up with to meet your needs.
A little bit about my approach:
In my practice, I draw upon many different bodies of work, both from the East and the West including Somatic Based Psychotherapy, Jungian Archetypal Psychology, parts work and Internal Family Systems, Inner Child work, Attachment Focused Therapy, Tantra and neo-tantra, Taoist Sexual Yoga, Non- duality, eco and depth psychology, Zen Buddhism, Mindfulness and Non-violent communication, to name a few.
However, the cornerstone of my work is Somatic Embodiment - this means we use Somatic experiencing and other somatic tools to locate the felt sense of resources and challenges in the body and support the body and nervous system to expand and strengthen the nervous system and build the emotional, physical, mental and spiritual body’s capacity to be with the wide many experiences of life in an easful and empowering way- whether that is in dealing with and integrating highly demanding periods of life or a particularly traumatic childhood or life event, currently affecting your life.
I am trained in Somatic based Attachment Focused Expressive Arts Therapy, which allows us to draw upon attachment theory to support your body to somatically re-organise patterns of avoidance, anxiety or disassociation or fawning into healthy patterns of secure attachment and regulation.
Mariam believes that everyone has the capacity and deserves to enjoy a life that is full, rich and meaningful.
“In my experience in the 10 years of working with individuals on integrating and healing from traumatic events and building loving, secure relationships, I have learnt that challenges in our lives can be the greatest catalysts for our growth and a natural aspect of our lived human experience and adult development- whether that is trauma or a particularly stressful trigger.”
“Often we are overwhelmed by our challenges and seek help when the challenges we are facing are greater than the skills, knowledge and resources we currently have. These challenges could range from the symptoms of a traumatic event or traumatic childhood affecting our experience in romantic relationship as adults or a challenge with our sexual health (e.g. PCOS, endo, vaginismus, etc.) through to feeling numb and disconnected from our body, our purpose and/or life.
These are often the times when people seek me out.
Once we have these tools, we have the resilience to INTEGRATE all of life’s many challenges into opportunities to expand deeper into our most authentic and empowered expression in every area of our life- relationship, our service and leadership in the world, our parenting and the expression of our heart and creativity.
Re-connecting to feel our body’s messages, feeling our emotions and learning to be with them and respond to them at a somatic level, allows us to integrate our emotions and experiences.
This is an essential life skill and necessary for healthy adult development. Developing this depth of intimacy with one’s body allows us to have a deep and healthy relationship with our own needs and desires, to feel safe and at home in our body (our home) and that then allow us to have healthy relationships with others that feel safe, nourishing and expansive.
Here is my story and how I found my way to this work:
I spent 5 years working as a Psychologist in Supervision, in the mainstream mental health system with individuals who had experienced severe and chronic cumulative emotional and sexual abuse, leading to chronic mental “illness”.
“Over the years working in the mental health field, I realised that despite years of talk therapy, feeling uninspired by the disempowering model of “practitioner-client,” and the people I was supporting simply were not “healing” and often, were re-living their trauma in our sessions.
I also began to recognise my own sexual trauma as a teenager, resurfacing as numbness, fear and anxiety around any form of physical intimacy in my partnership.
The unintegrated trauma had me experience constant triggers that I was unaware of, severe fatigue from having my nervous system on constant fight-flight mode, leading to adrenal fatigue, severe anxiety and panic attacks and bouts of long term depression.
I had constant UTI infections, yeast infections, extremely painful and life draining periods. I had developed long standing irritable syndrome. I felt no desire, and sex was painful, numb, scary and disconnecting for me.
I knew that talk therapy was only going to take me so far and that I HAD to find my way back home to myself and reclaim my life. I found yoga and during my yoga teacher training experienced multiple emotional releases that led to a full kundalini awakening where I was in a constant state of orgasmic bliss and gratitude for the miracle of life.
I was in this state of orgasmic bliss for 3 years during which I began to integrate the learnings and intelligence my body was teaching me through this experience. I learnt to work with the energy body, and sexuality for the expansion of my own and other’s consciousness. I realised that this energy was designed to open and release the body of stagnant emotions, heal the organs and bring vital life force energy to the body and build it up.
In fact, overtime, I began to notice myself look and feel younger, I healed all my physical health conditions and had a clear line of communication with my organs and began to somatically perceive weakness, illness or emotional/energetic blockages and choose to release them from my body by listening to how my body wanted to release.
My ability to perceive my purpose and power became crystal clear to me- as did other’s gifts, the places they could be supported and where stagnation or trauma was being held in their body.
My nervous system expanded and I began to further build my skills in embodiment to support others through these gifts. I studied for these years everything I could get my hands on to integrate at the mind, body and spirit level all these learnings and my tool box now reflects this integration I can clearly see for the human be-ing and it’s optimal function.
Many people have awakened and integrated the innate intelligence of their be-ing in this way and you can too.
“I do this work because I KNOW how deeply I needed empowering, professional, integritous, compassionate, and understanding support. So, I have become this safe space for myself and I offer this safe space and support to you, now. “